Recently, I had a conversation with my daughter Avery about her new boyfriend and whether or not they were official yet. Avery’s answer stumped me, then made me laugh when she said,” I think so, but I am not sure if we are Facebook status worthy.”
On your Facebook page profile there is a metric for your relationship status that includes several options: married, single, in a relationship, engaged, it’s complicated, open relationship, widowed, divorced, civil union, separated, etc. I never really gave it much thought because I am married and my choice for relationship status was easy. After her comment, I thought about it and decided to research what constitutes a Facebook status worthy relationship for others.
Avery informed me that before stalking someone on Facebook (yeah, I got the same idea from that one), you check to see if the person of interest is taken, and how serious it is.
Facebook Stalking, like regular stalking, allows the stalker to secretly gather information about the person they are interested in; the stalkee if you will. Unlike regular stalking, Facebook Stalking is less likely to have an illegal component and is generally accepted by it’s voyeuristic victims. The argument being, that if you didn’t want others to know about your life, you wouldn’t post it all over the internet.
Person 1: Do you have a crush on Billy?
Person 2: I’m not sure yet, I need to go home and do some Facebook Stalking first.
Jenny Caruso. December 2008. via http://www.urbandictonary .com
It is interesting how people react to a change in your Facebook relationship status. Avery officially changed hers after we spoke yesterday to “being in a relationship.” I looked at her page (does this make me a fb stalker?) and since she changed it,about 19 hours ago, she has had 14 comments and 11 likes about her status change.
I personally understand that there is no such thing as privacy on Facebook or any other platform, which is why I do my best to present myself in a
somewhat professional manner and keep private things, private. Because I am a fairly open book, I really don’t feel the need to hide who I am or what I am about.
My personal branding professor, Dr. Bret Simmons made it clear that you never post anything to any social media outlet that you don’t want made public. You never know who may be Facebook stalking you, including your boss, mom, friends, enemies, ex-boyfriends, and so on…