“Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
Let’s face it, there are days which are more worthwhile than others. In the not so recent past, when I felt overly anxious, I would drown out melancholy sitting for hours playing Farmville (nothing worthwhile in the activity). I played until it was dark outside. Effectively I ignored my family for hours, and was no less stressed as a result of fake farming.
What I consider worthwhile
Prior to beginning the arduous task of completing an MBA while working full time, I frequented the gym an average of 4-5 times per week. Exercising not only helped maintain a healthy body, but it was also a great tension-reliever.
When it warmed outside, my pigtails and lavender helmet were instantly recognizable as I rode my bike around town. I rode with my husband Robert and/or my friends for 40-50 mile rides several times per week. My favorite route began at our house in South Reno and meandered alongside I-80 to Verdi, Nevada. On the trip home we would stop for iced coffee and bask in the glory of our successful excursion.
So what happened?
I guess life got in the way. It is easy to come up with a bunch of lame excuses as to why rides dwindled from 4x per week to once every other week (sometimes). Sure, I was crazy busy with school, and my work schedule changed frequently (most often included weekends when Robert would ride). As I was unable to participate on a regular basis, I became bitter towards the people I used to ride with (especially Robert) and grew increasingly depressed.
As I fell deeper into a funk, other things in my life were negatively affected as well. Weight slowly stuck to my body and I transformed into a sad blob that used to be me.
Lesson learned: I must make time for me!
Finally after 2 years of relative inactivity, I took back control of my life. As a prerequisite for a personal branding class I enrolled in at UNR, I cleaned up my Facebook account by deleting all the mind-numbing games I played for hours on end. Farmville was easier to delete than firs thought.
Recently, I lost 35lbs and eradicated (alternate) blobby me. Feeling more comfortable in my skin has done wonders for my self-esteem. Suddenly, I desired to return to activities that brought me joy. I learned that if I do not take care of myself first, I had nothing to give to those who need it most. I vowed to make time for my worthwhile moments. At work, I was not an effective leader when depressed. At home, I was missing out on my family and what they had to offer. Overall, I turned into a big hot mess who felt completely alone. But that was to be no more!
As the Emerson quote says, “Finish the day and be done with it.” Every day is a new beginning. It is an opportunity to right a wrong, to get off my but and onto the bike saddle. Today, I rode 20 miles with my dear friend Yvonne. I was a bit slower than I used to be and fatigued as the ride was nearly over. We stopped for a ceremonial unsweetened iced green tea soy latte (say that five times fast) at Starbucks. As in old times, we basked in the glory of our success. Today was definitely worthwhile.
#trust30 prompt: What is one thing you can do that would make today worthwhile? What’s stopping you from getting started right now? Author: Jessica Dang