“If you can’t change your fate, change your attitude.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
What is fate? Are we all predestined to greatness or obscurity at birth? How does it make you feel believing there is no free will when it comes to your future? Those with an external locus of control (perpetual victim) would be able to tell you why they never achieve their goals.
Since fate is unchangeable, maybe we should learn to embrace destiny rather than fight it. Greek tragedy tells us that by fighting fate, you change nothing about the outcome. You are only more miserable because of it.
four five letter word = hubris
One of my favorite $5 words is hubris, which is defined as excessive pride or self-confidence (OED). When Oedipus’ dad was convinced he could evade the oracle’s prediction by killing his infant son. Yada, yada, yada…
Oedipus did exactly what was prophesied by the oracle of Delphi. He killed his father and married his mother. When he later questioned another oracle who refused to answer inquiries regarding the king’s death, Oedipus’ hubris became his downfall. Eventually, he was told the truth as to who murdered the king (his dad), etc. In the end, he gouges his eyes and is exiled from Thebes. So much for outrunning fate.
Where am I going with this random lesson in the humanities?
Really, I do have a point here! If Oedipus had not received the prophecy, none of these shenanigans would have happened. His hubris essentially sparked future actions into motion. All along, he was given a choice how to act. His attitude, not the oracle, led him down a path of destruction.
Let’s bring it back to the present
Your life is your responsibility. Actions you take and how you react are all up to you. Open your mind to the endless possibilities surrounding you instead of fighting what you call fate. Welcome and admire your flaws because they are beautiful.
I was unhappy with the fact I lacked a higher education. I remedied the situation (albeit later than I should have) by going back to school and gaining an advanced degree. It only took a small change in thinking to start acting. I was not a victim of fate, I embraced my life thus far as part of the journey that led me where I am now. I am not about to gouge my eyes out because of a past mistake I may have made. Think Know you can (and will) achieve some degree of greatness rather than rely on circumstance. Expect more from yourself than mediocrity and you shall deliver a command performance.
#trust30 prompt: At any given point in time, you’re only one thought away from changing your thinking. What thought can you change today? (Author: Maryellen Smith)