Why is it every New Year I hear the same bullshit resolutions recited by the same individuals? I mean really?? If it didn’t stick last year, what is so wonderfully special about this one?
Yeah, I know the whole, new year, new chances, blah, blah blah…Maybe you do it to make yourself feel better by recognizing areas of opportunity. Is it to please others (who are probably not all that deserving) or simply get someone off your back?
(If you are unfamiliar with my views towards resolutions check out last year’s post on the subject.)
word for 2013: presence
OK. Rather than putting a stick in the ground declaring I want to lose weight, I thought of a word that might define a destination. How did I fare?
Honestly, 2013 started off as a bummer. I got laid off in the first quarter and needed presence of mind in order to decide what direction wanted to take next. I had to be extremely present for job searches, networking meetings and the like.
Believe me, it would have been much easier to turn on my internal headset and wait for it all to be over. However, what good would that have done? I was the one who was unemployed and floating. Yep. I was definitely present for that.
Home life was a bit different. Maybe I can only focus on being present for one major thing at a time. Maybe I just turned on that internal headset and turned myself off from the family. Not sure if it matters why, but like everything else, I own it.
presence morphs into spirituality
Well OK, I began a whole spirituality quest this past fall. It really does play off the theme of presence and I think it’s a nice way to introduce it as my word/theme for 2014.
Recently I had an appointment at 9:00am on a Tuesday morning. Leaving work early was no biggie but I was on serious time constraints as I had to return ASAP.
I showed up early (hey it could happen) and waited for approximately 20 minutes before realizing I was stood up. Old me would have completely melted down on the spot and started crying.
The new more improved version sent out a text asking if he remembered our appointment. Turns I was in his Reno office whilst he was waiting in Carson City. At that point, fault was not the issue. Not gonna happen that day.
Rather than scraping myself off the ceiling, I asked if we could reschedule; problem solved. I told him how I am learning to not fall apart each time something goes awry.
That’s when he told me in a text, “if you are OK in this moment, there is no reason to freak out.” Who knew a text could be so telling.
For me, this whole spirituality quest thingy has been about learning to be OK with myself at any given moment and to let go of the uncontrollable. Hanging on tenaciously only destroys me slowly rather than builds hope.
I’m beginning to get it. The road is full of hills and valleys. Some gates are closed and I have to turn around heading in another direction. If I am OK with the ride itself, there is no reason for me to feel lost, alone or abandoned. Freaking out seems ridiculous within this new found perspective.
enough about me, therapy and spirituality already. GEEZ!
Anyways…what is your take on the whole resolution VS word theme theory? Do you have a preferred method of delivery or is it all a bunch of crap you prefer to ignore?
Share your word or (gulp) resolution and your reasoning behind it.
This post was inspired by Mama Kat’s weekly writing prompt. Kat holds a wealth of inspiration and I feel lucky to have found her.
2.) Choose a theme word to live by for 2014 and tell us why you chose it.
- No resolution, the same solution (spiceboy80.wordpress.com)
- Spiritual Resolutions (mainstreamworship.wordpress.com)
- Farewell 2013 (madiupwardbound.wordpress.com)
- On New Year’s Resolutions (lestiforgethowtowrite.wordpress.com)
- My New Year’s Decree (even though I’m pretty sure you have to be royalty to make a decree) (juliedeneen.com)
- New Year Resolutions-Have we already set ourselves up to fail? (bohemiancreature.wordpress.com)
- Selfies. Coffee. Resolutions. (mattsmerdel.wordpress.com)
- Resolutions (whatlaraloves.wordpress.com)