modesty is overrated

This post was inspired by Mama Kat’s writing prompt 1.) A blog post inspired by the word: modest.

I usually enjoy a good challenge, but I may have met my match. Could I have made it more difficult if I tried? Am I modest? What do I think of modesty in general? Gah!

my opinion of modesty

For the most part, I find modesty utter crap. I immediately envision someone meek and submissive. These are definitely not traits I identify with easily.

It is not the least bit endearing to be all “awwwh shucks” about yourself or your accomplishments. Your life is what you make of it. Own it! If you did something awesome; all the better.

Self-effacement is similar to self-destruction. When I give compliments, they are genuine. It is OK to gracefully accept praise and move on. Modesty is not necessary.

modest as a mermaid

Are mermaids immodest? I have absolutely no issues about parading around in a tail. My body is far from perfect. If I waited to be an ideal size or weight, I would miss out on all the fun.

modest as a mermaid
modest as a mermaid

The first time wearing a bikini top with my tail, I admittedly was anxious what others were thinking. I fought with the idea of covering my tummy until coming to the conclusion that it didn’t matter.

If I was to wear a tail in the first place, I needed to own it completely and unabashedly. The reality was, no one was staring at my stomach. When I believed in mermaid magic, the rest fell into place.

modest miss mimi cupcakes?

Seriously? How could I perform burlesque if I were modest? Shyness must be checked at the door before a show.

I am not a trained dancer. I am not the least bit graceful (is that a modest statement?) When the music starts, I transform into character and nothing else matters.

I don’t dance for anyone’s benefit but my own. It makes me happy and that is all that matters. This is not immodesty so much as a way to feed my soul. The connection felt is unsurpassed.

unpretentiously modesty

I may not be modest in many ways, but I am unpretentious. I am not better than anyone else. I am remarkable in my own right and so are you.

Do you know what makes you unique and special? Don’t be modest! Are you aware of your talents or gifts or do you shy away from them? Share your thoughts about modesty.

By the way, this was an excruciatingly difficult post for me to create. Not sure why.



10 thoughts on “modesty is overrated

  1. kelley says:

    I think you were very brave and expressed yourself very well. I especially like that you believe in mermaid magic. I’ve always been round and plump and have dieted over and over. I had a day of mother magic one day when my 4 year old daughter wrapped her arms around my middle, buried her nose in my flab and said with joy, “Oh mommy I’m so glad you’re soft and squishy and not hard and bony like other mommy’s”. It was liberating to know I was loved just as I was. Stopping by from mama kats kelley at the road goes ever ever on


    1. miriamgomberg says:

      Kelley, I think we are our own worst judges. Of course your daughter loves you as you are! You are beautiful, loving and there is nothing she would change about that. Thanks for stopping by. m


  2. mamaslosinit says:

    I love your attitude and I think I’m drawn to people like you as friends because you people bring me out of my shell a little. Sometimes I need that extra nudge.


  3. Lisa @ The Meaning of Me says:

    Well, I had a comment…and then your blog told me I couldn’t post it.

    What did I say…? It was that I think you are precisely the kind of person I need to hang out with because I tend to be way to uptight about being myself because somebody might think I’m an idiot. Well, maybe I used to. The older I get, the more I think “who really cares?” because I realize that nobody even gives it half a thought but me – I’m the only one who cares. And so the older I get, the more I’m OK with just being me and being OK with it – idiot or not. 🙂


  4. momfeld says:

    You say it sister! Love this! I really am not very modest. I was, once upon a time. When I was a big-time insecure teenager and even in my twenties. But no more. Screw ’em if they don’t like what they see. Then they don’t need to look.


    1. miriamgomberg says:

      Or maybe they should take a picture because it will last longer. I have so wanted to say that before and never actually got the nerve to do it. Maybe I should just smack the haters with my tail. Just saying.


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